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Loving the Unlovable

I grew up learning about Jesus, but unfortunately, my head twisted the way I thought about Him to make Him a very driving taskmaster who was always waiting for you to mess up. And then would rub your nose in your mess-up to remind you of why you needed to do better next time. In…

Judging In My Insecurity

Well, this is one of those posts that I don’t want to write because it (more than usual) exposes all my flaws and issues and doesn’t make me feel good. But one of the things I’ve learned over these past 10 years in counseling is that raw vulnerability in my own problems is often a…

The Addiction of Comparison

Oh, comparison. It’s a thief that gets me every time. I can look around social media, stories or my own eyes and every time it puts me in a bad place. There are so many things that we can compare and judge whether or not we get the upper hand. And either way we lose….

Slowing Down

I was reading this Psalm this morning and it jumped out at me in my usual rush to accomplish everything on my to-do list: Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it; unless the Lord guards the city, the watchman keeps awake in vain. It is vain for you to…

Hoping for Spring

It’s the time of year in Colorado when the days get warmer and spring seems to be trying to push through winter. Some call them “teaser” days because there is plenty of snow still to come, but it does restore hope that spring might finally come one day. I love gardening and tending to our…

Courage For The Time

“Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal among you, which comes upon you for your testing, as though some strange thing were happening to you; but to the degree that you share the sufferings of Christ, keep on rejoicing, so that also at the revelation of His glory you may rejoice with exultation.”…

Where’s Your Focus?

When you are in the midst of suffering or the problems the world is facing or even frustration with the mundane details of life, some days can seem dark the minute you wake up. You focus on whatever you are struggling with or all the same things you have to do and it can make the…

What Do We Do With Rejection?

Sometimes it feels like someone is trying to break down everything that makes you who you are and everything you have tried to build. Some days the rejection is so fierce that it feels like an all-consuming fire that you can’t fight. You just want to crawl in a hole and hide, licking your wounds…

Failing Out

Often when I am doing discipleship and pastoral counseling, I have people who admit to me that they think something they did in their past has screwed them up beyond God’s love. They married the wrong person, committed the wrong sin, experienced a divorce, didn’t resolve something with a person who has died, waited too…